This has been a big topic with women who are married to men with double lives, and not just with women, but men. How do you feel about being married to a man who is bisexual, and what are signs that a man in living a double life with another. man?
Check out my new web page, and poem. I WILL NOT LOSE (under Chanel). Do you believe a loosing attitude makes a loosing person.
Why do people always think that someone is hating on them? What does it really mean to hate or for someone to throw shade? Some definitions of hating are just crazy.
I have almost completed Part 2 of my new book Savage Sisters Part 2. I must say that self publishing has been a learning experience. Everything now lies in my hands, and depends on me. What do you think of my new cover?
What are you doing to prepare your kids for the summer? Many children lose reading skills during the summer because they don't read. Teach them to Drop Everything and READ! (DEAR)
In a research project for school I learned that in low income house holds many children do not have books to read. I often ask myself with the free library right around the corner, and so many websites where you can get cheap books, why? I then found that many children worry about day to day meals, so reading outside of school is the least of their worries. So what can we do as community leaders, parents, and volunteers? Any suggestions on how to keep our children reading this summer in the urban communities? I think Drop Everything and Read is a great idea, especially in house holds. Imagine if at a certain time of day this summer kids stop playing for 15-30 sit on their steps, and read a book. Imagine if the adults did this with them. That would be a great thing. Reading literacy is so important. Lets step up, and keep our children reading this summer. Remember reading is fundamental.
Whitney movie was unfinished, and unnecessary. It was a movie I could have done without seeing. It was a waste of two hours. (Read More)
Whitney Houston was an icon, she had the voice of no other. I remember the first time hearing "I will always love you" I would try to sing it just like her. She has inspired so many artist and people. When I heard that Angela Basset was directing a movie about Whitney I said to myself, "This is the women who played Tina Turner, Yes!" I was thinking this should be interesting. So When I sat down to watch, I was saying this is going to be good. I was wrong. It almost made me wonder why the hell wont they let her rest in peace like Cissy Houston said. I always thought she just didn't want people to know what everyone was saying, that Whitney was a drug addict. In reality her life was bigger than her just doing drugs, and being married to Bobby Brown. She played in the Body Guard, The Preacher's Wife, Grammy winner, American Music Award winner. I can go on forever with her many accomplishments. So when I heard a Movie on Whitney, I thought 2-3 hours long with all of her life in the movie, not just drug abuse, and her marrying Bobby. To a child growing up who may have wanted to know who Whitney Houston was to be so talked about, and such an icon, they would have gotten anything from that movie. To not get the blessing of Whitney's mother before doing this movie, or even talking to Bobby Brown. I think the movie was a failure before it even started. I know the movie topped the LMN charts, but it was for the same reason I watch, because Angela Basset directed it. Congratulations on your first movie Angela. I love you as an actress. I think you should stick to fictional movies. If you are going to do a movie on someone like Whitney have a good writer, and a better budget. I must say that Ya Ya killed the part of whitney, and the costumes were on point, but the overall movie could have been better. It should have depicted her life from start til her death showing her many accomplishments, and the obstacles to get there. The movie ended, and I said WTF. This is just my opinion. What do you all think?
How do you really feel about Bill Cosby? Why should he loose everything he worked for with no conviction of a crime?
The Bill Cosby incident has been all over the news with numerous accusations. I am a little on the fence about the whole thing. I think that when ever you are in a situation that is not right you should always find a way to get out, and if you ever have been raped or taken advantage do not shower, and go straight to the police. I do not think that you should wait 30 years later, and say "Hey by the way I was raped 30 years ago, or accept settlements, and monthly allowances. It bothers me that most of these women were up, and coming actresses looking for a come up back then the same way they do now. It also bothers me after all these years they make these accusations, and Mr. Cosby looses his star on the walk a fame, his credentials, and colleges he donated money to over the years now want no affiliation with him. No one is stepping up to help support him. This all comes after the cops do not get indicted for the killing of Mike Brown, and Eric Garner. It's almost as if they took our mind away from what happened, and made us think this man is a monster when on the other hand, there is no real clear evidence that he did what he is being accused of. If you think about it all men in the world of stardom have consensual sex with women who just want to be able to say they had that star, or for financial gain. Let's just face it some women will do anything for fame. In my opinion I think these women went into these hotel rooms, and apartments with this man, and any other man for that reason. Bill Cosby probably doesn't really remember half of them. He looses all he has based on accusations, and not proof or evidence. I thought you were innocent until proven guilty. They have no problem with erasing his accomplishments as if he never existed. They had no problem accepting his money. Now since they want to cut all ties, how about cutting a check for all the money he donated to the schools. They wont do that. They used him for what they needed him for at the time. I just think its not fair for him to loose what he has worked for without a day in court. He wont really get a day in court because there is no evidence. I am a women, and I would want people to believe me if I ever was raped. I would never wait 30 years so I can get money in a civil suite. I would want them in jail. It doesn't matter how things was back then. If they really wanted to get him arrested why not do it back then when being black with money was wrong, and they waited for you to do shit like this. This is like scandal in real life. Where the fuck is Kerry Washington to get Bill out of this shit? Somebody hire him a private investigator. I would really love to hear what he has to say. If you did want to support him his silence almost makes him seem guilty.
It is officially cuffing season. All holidays are underway. It is time to see if your mate is serious about you, by how they spend their holidays.
Holidays are always the tell tell sign if the man or women your dating is serious about you. Let me tell you how. In my opinion:
#1. Your mate is going to want to show you off to their family. If you have not got an invite to their family shindig, and they are comfortable with you being with other family than them. Not saying that they will bring someone else to family dinner, it's just saying they are comfortable being single, and you may not be the only one. I have plenty of male cousins who don't mind a hook up with one of my girlfriends at family shindigs.
#2. If your dude is close to his mother, he is going to want to introduce you to her especially if that is where he spends most of his time. If for some reason you have not met his mom by now or you don't have plans to meet her for upcoming events you are most likely not the one he is serious about. If you have met her, and for some reason you haven't hit it off, and he hasn't invited you over. In my opinion I always think because there is a past relationship he was in, and she is closer to that other girl, and she doesn't really care for you. (If you know your a likeable person.)
#3. If you have plans on cooking at your own house, and your mate has no plans to help you cook, or even spend some of the night with you. If they haven't even invited friends over. You may not be the one they are serious about. When you are in a serious relationship although there may be some selfishness at times. If he has not compromised his/her time to help you, and be there for you just a little bit. In my opinion you are dealing with a very selfish person. Who only care about their needs. They would rather be some where else than with you.
These are just my opinions. There are many reasons why mates spend time apart for family gatherings. When you are in a relationship you usually do most family things together. You compromise for each other, and never put your mate on the back burner to do other things with other people. When making plans for the holidays if you can't include your mate for some reason. Then maybe you need to re-evaluate your mate or the other people you rather spend your time with. Ask your mate if it bothers them that you are spending time away from them. If you are between two families spend a few hours at one families house, and then a few hours at another families house. If your mate is cooking help them cook, and set up, and if you have to show face at your families house, do so as it starts to get dark making sure your mate is ok before leaving. If your family has reasons to dislike your mate hear them out, but if you feel they are the right one for you. Let them know that, and ask them to treat them right. Family is everything, and who better to share them with than the one you love.
I have always asked this question of why women stay. In my opinion, I think women stay because they are either afraid of the man they are with, or they stay for financial convenience, and many are ashamed of what people will say if they leave. In other situations they really think that this man can change for them. In most cases kids are involved, and kids see a whole lot. I think arguing bothers kids enough. To allow your kids watch you being hurt by the man whom is suppose to love you teaches them the wrong way to deal with their mates in relationships, especially our daughters. You never want them to think that being abused is ok, or abusing someone is ok. So what do you do if your are being abused. I think leaving them is best. I think as women we need to realize our strengths, build our self esteem, and not fall for weak ass men. I think any man who can raise their hand to beat a women is a weak ass man. As a women you have to realize you are beautiful, and that your children depend on you to be strong for them. I think any child would rather see you start over, than see you hurt, or in a coffin. Leaving sometimes may seem hard. I think anyone can leave for a few days, or even weeks. When you leave, and leave for good with no turning back, and realize that you are worth more than being some ones punching bag. Then you have taken the first step in fighting back your abuser. If you need help in a domestic violence situation please get help, call police or your local domestic abuse hotline. I hope that during domestic violence month many women will fight their abuser back, by walking away for good. I would love to hear you comments on this issues.