It is officially cuffing season. All holidays are underway. It is time to see if your mate is serious about you, by how they spend their holidays.

Holidays are always the tell tell sign if the man or women your dating is serious about you.  Let me tell you how.  In my opinion:  

#1.  Your mate  is going to want to show you off to their family.  If you have not got an invite to their family shindig, and they are comfortable with you being with other family than them.   Not saying that they will bring someone else to family dinner, it's just saying they are comfortable  being single, and you may not be the only one.  I have plenty of male cousins who don't mind a hook up with one of my girlfriends at family shindigs.

#2. If your dude is close to his mother, he is going to want to introduce you to her especially if that is where he spends most of his time.   If for some reason you have not met his mom by now or you don't have plans to meet her for upcoming events you are most likely not the one he is serious about.  If you have met her, and for some reason you haven't  hit it off, and he hasn't invited you over.  In my opinion I always think because there is a past relationship he was in, and she is closer to that other girl, and she doesn't really care for you.  (If you know your a likeable person.)

#3. If you have plans on cooking at your own house, and your mate has no plans to help you cook, or even spend some of the night with you.  If they haven't even invited friends over.  You may not be the one they are serious about.  When you are in a serious relationship although there may be some selfishness at times.  If he has not compromised his/her time to help you, and be there for you just a little bit.  In my opinion you are dealing with a very selfish person.  Who only care about their needs.  They would rather be some where else than with you.

These are just my opinions. There are many reasons why mates spend time apart for family gatherings.  When you are in a relationship you usually do most  family things together.  You compromise for each other, and never put your mate on the back burner to do other things with other people.  When making plans for the holidays if you can't include your mate for some reason.  Then maybe you need to re-evaluate your mate or the other people you rather spend your time with.  Ask your mate if it bothers them that you are spending time away from them.  If you are between two families spend a few hours at one families house, and then a few hours at another families house.  If your mate is cooking help them cook, and set up, and if you have to show face at your families house, do so as it starts to get dark making sure your mate is ok before leaving.   If your family has reasons to dislike your mate hear them out, but if you feel they are the right one for you.  Let them know that, and ask them to treat them right.  Family is everything, and who better to share them with than the one you love.